Ask Jessica Sensual Advice Jessica Brant is the author of Finding One's Way and the founder of Warrior Women.  She is an advocate against domestic abuse as well as sexual advice guru.  She has helped many men and women from all walks of life and different ages about their sexual challenges and concerns.  Brenda My husband is sick and taking Penicillin to fight the infection. His sexual appetite has not been affected, but he seems to want more sex now that he is sick. I was wondering being that I am deathly allergic to Penicillin if we had sex would contact with his sperm send me in to anaphylactic seizures?    My first inclination is that your husband being a bit under the whether is feeling slightly insecure that he is not meeting your sexual needs. Being allergic to Penicillin and Codeine myself, I have been in the same situations as you. When I have had sexual relations with my man I have never had a reaction but I make sure I have my EpiPen close by. As every persons body reacts differently. I would check with your medical physician before having sex with your husband just to be on the safe side. Wear a condom for extra measure... they can be fun to use. Corinne My boyfriend wants me to use a sex toy on him. Is he gay? NO!  In my opinion he is not gay, you should take it as a compliment that your man feels comfortable enough to ask you to toy with him. For him to even think about having you use a sexual toy on him he must feel 100% comfortable with you. You don't have to be gay to enjoy the sexual sensation of being "toyed with" by someone you trust and love. Relax and enjoy and stop questioning. Tameka Do men prefer shaved pussies or bushy ones? Some men like women to have hair because it retains a bit of effervescent, some men are turned on by landing strips others by hearts craved out while other still prefer smooth clean and nicely shaven. Different strokes for different folks, my love. It would be listed under "personal taste" you hope. I have never heard of a man complain about hair it seems to me that it is up to you and how you feel comfortable with your own personal due. A word of advice if you are going for the clean shaved look I would check into getting waxed, it last longer, it is smoother an there are less chances of getting ingrown hairs. (Editor note-SHAVED!)    Sally My boyfriend wants me to perform oral sex on him and swallow his semen. Is it possible for a man to release some urine while he is ejaculating?  First of all let me ask you a question, does you man wish to pee on you? Why would you ask this question unless he has expressed an explicit interest in doing so? Straight to your question I am 99.9% positive that a man cannot ejaculate and urinate at the same time unless there is something medically wrong with him. You can equate it to sneezing and coughing at the same time. It just can't be done! When a man has an erection in the morning it is difficult for him to pee, therefore making it impossible to cum and pee at the same time. Sarah Ok, Jess, this is not a whopper!! ; But the question is, should you play the field while you're separated (not divorced)? I have my own answer but you can have your way with it!   If you are separated and it is not related to a job such as being deployed by the military, a long haul trucker, or a seaman and you are apart not by choice but by circumstances, then no you should not play the field unless of course you have been given complete permission to do so. If you both are living in separate domiciles and the separation is mutual and are preparing to get a divorce and you feel there is no reconciliation then by all means if the opportunity comes knocking at your door have at it. Remember to have safe sex please. Terri Is Internet sex cheating?? Yes, I would personably consider it cheating on your mate. It is different if your mate is looking at girly magazine or watching porn. There is an intimacy that is shared between two people while on the World Wide Web. For example your mate could be having Internet sex with the girl next door. How happy would you be or your mate be, if the Internet sex was with the neighbor. Mister Wiener Gate the Twitter sensation just admitted to sending photos of himself with a hard on in a pair of Jockey shorts. Quite obviously his wife is not standing by his side.  So, to answer your question out right, Yes, it is cheating. Jessi Is having sex the most satisfying during periods? Some girls enjoy sex during the menstrual period but afterwards they have really bad cramps, which makes having sex while you are on your period uncomfortable. It also makes it harder for a woman to get pregnant while on her period so that could add to her sexual enjoyment not having to worry about getting pregnant. It all depends on if you are relaxed and comfortable with the fact. For me personally sex is great anytime as long as you are with the right lover. David Is there a limit to how many orgasms a woman can have? To my knowledge there is not a limit to how may orgasms a woman can have. Aren't we the lucky ducks of the human species? Roy Which is better, sex with love or without? What kind of question is that? 99.9% of all sex is not out of love; it is only after having sex that one tends to find love. What is your definition of sex? Are you talking about between two people or sex by yourself? If you are having sex by yourself does that imply that your left hand gets jealous of your right hand? Jennifer I had white patches on my tongue so I went to the Doctor. They said it was thrush, a type of yeast infection. Did I get it from performing oral on a girl? Candida, otherwise known as thrush can be contracted in a few ways if you have been taking antibiotics, use inhaled corticosteroids, suffering from diabetes or HIV.  Bacteria: loves to live and thrive in warm moist places. To answer your question yes you can get thrush from anyone that has a yeast infection. Thrush can be spread from the mouth to the vagina, the anus and even the penis. Jean I've always been curious if it is true that gay men have different dating/sex rules... i.e. bjs aren't cheating... of course, now there are probably plenty of straight people who think that too? You are correct in saying there are many straight people who believe that fellatio is not sex... Take for example our former President Clinton who testified that oral copulation in the Oval Office with Miss Lewinsky was not intercourse. The rules of cheating and being monogamous in a relationship don't change just because you are in a same sex relationship. Bonnie Last night my boyfriend missed and ejaculated on my leather outfit. Is there a special cleaner out there to remove this type of stain from leather?  Well baby, here is my advice to you... take a wet rag and wipe your partners semen off. I can't believe you did not already try doing this, semen "cums" right out of leather, girl friend. Next time my dear try covering the couch up with a sheet or try a different area of your house to make love in. Dianna I am 25 years old a survivor of child molestation, When I was younger I dedicated my life to God and became a Nun. I have recently been discharged from the church because I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder. I don't even know what an orgasm is or how to achieve one. Sweetheart because I do not hold a medical degree in clinical psychology I cannot give you the advice you are seeking. The trauma you have experienced in your young life has a lot to do with your lack of sexual exploration of your body. That combine with your bi-polar disorder leads me to want to advice you to seek professional help from a physiologist who deals with survivors of sexual abuse. Write to Jessica at findingonesway@gmail.com Selected questions will be published in the following issue. All entries once submitted will be the property of Miami Life Magazine Publishing Company LLC.  We value your privacy, names and e-mail address's will not be sold, distributed, or otherwise appear in a way for use that was not intended.